Why do we all get caught up in the pursuit of “happiness”? In this episode Duane and Catherine share an abundance of well-constructed research that has clearly shown we are happier, healthier, and live longer when we have strong relationships.  In the context of connection, we thrive and become fully alive – this is a more worthy goal than the sliver of human experience we label ‘happiness.’

7min

This episode focuses on the power of relationship messages, conveyed through body language and tone of voice. Everything we think, feel, say or do influences others. Taking responsibility for and control of, your role in this web is the key to building healthy connections.

6min

Is the universe a friendly place or not? How you answer that question for yourself will guide your approach to life, relationships, risk, and your future.

7min

DISCONNECTION is key to the trauma – we have nowhere to go with these painful feelings, and so we ‘lock them down’ in what we refer to metaphorically as ‘the basement’ of our psyches. We learn to separate thinking from feeling, because the feeling is so painful – it is the FEELING we put into the basement.

10min

Duane shares how our ‘suspicion of self’ rests in the stories that we tell ourselves to make sense of what has happened to us in our lives. Our response to the fear of being seen, judged, or rejected is powerful and helps us understand what we have locked in the basement of our psyche.

2min 18sec

In this chapter we will discover how our defence systems develop and uncover what we might be hiding in your basement.

7min

Are you real in your relationship? This episode focuses on an intimate glimpse into the struggle with our 2 selves and how it impacts our relationships.

20min

When we can’t stand the anxiety we are experiencing, we commit to alleviating it in an unhealthy way. Explore the types of acting out or acting in behaviours you engage in to protect yourself.

5min 40sec

Your body is a mess of emotion, sensation and feeling, whether you are willing to address it or not. Those feelings are looking for ways to make themselves right. We’re looking for people to blame, places to dump that guilt and shame, and unload what we already carry.

7min

Most often, the other is not causing your distress. The other is triggering your distress. Duane and Catherine illustrate a pattern that played out in their relationship, based on what was triggered in their basements and the automatic behaviours attached to that trigger.

20min

If we can’t redefine the problem nothing can change.

16min

The emotional discomfort and pain that we try to avoid can teach us, if we let it. The feeling of connection pulls us back into life and activates our internal connection to our core self. The more real we feel to ourselves, the more we perceive others accurately.

6min

Learn how to enact a “contain and reflect” approach when an experience triggers something in our basement. Take an important step forward towards vulnerable communication.

26min

By undertaking this course, you’ve explored important aspects of yourself and built a toolkit that will allow you to connect with your authentic self – and to share that self with others in a genuinely real way. Reflect on your experience and know that we can learn to love one another, respect one another, and be real together.

15min